In the martial art world, conflict is handled face to face: the fighting is done with punches, elbows, kicks and knees. But in girl world, conflict is handled behind another girl’s back: the fighting is done with words.Read More
“Don’t worry about it, I was 130 pounds last week,” my opponent said proudly, with the gleaming gold medal around her neck.
In that moment, I felt like a failure. I trained and fought despite my short height and small build. Now I believed that I lost because of my height and build.Read More
“Girls can’t play with us.”
Indignant, I snapped, “Why? Afraid I’ll beat you?”
The other, bigger, older boys chuckled at my retort and surprisingly let me stay to play. I no longer recall the game we were playing, only the message remained. I was six, and that was the first time I realized my gender could be used to exclude me.Read More